Why I drink wine and eat chocolate
It’s all about balance and a glass of Pinot
Ok, breaking news I’m not perfect and I have bad days too. Yes, I work hard to keep myself healthy and keep fit and stay positive. I do still get anxious, flustered and still mutter under my breath if someone is rude in the supermarket. The point that I’m trying to make is that whilst I work in holistic health and wellbeing, I have to work to maintain it, the same as anyone else. I haven’t spend years up a mountain or sitting on a park bench. Eckhart Tolle a spiritual writer famous for The Power of Now did and I always wondered how he paid his bills.
I do practise meditation every day and aim to live mindfully and with kindness and compassion. I read and research meditation all the time and am constantly learning. There are also days when it all goes out the window and I end up dancing around crazily to 80’s classics. That's a different story.
When you’re looking for a way to improve your own wellbeing and emotional health, you are probably already not thinking the best of yourself. You are good at beating yourself up. I can help you to be kinder to yourself. Its easy to think that people who are helping you must have the perfect lifestyle, floating around in kaftans and eating kimchi. (I’ve tried this and don’t like it, the kimchi, fermented cabbage, not the kaftan).
I want you to know that lots of other people are going through the same struggles as you. It’s highly likely that anyone that you go to whether its yoga teachers, massage therapists, reflexologists, counsellors or coaches are in the same boat. They all started doing what they do to help themselves in some way first and then realised that it was so amazing they wanted to share it. If you’re thinking of doing something for yourself, let’s see if I can get rid of some of the myths about what your meditation teacher is thinking.
What I am thinking - 5 myth busters
I love helping people, if you’ve had a bad day, it doesn’t matter, this is your time and the best thing is when I visibly see people more relaxed and calm at the end of the session.
I am judging how ‘good’ you are at meditating. Everyone has to start somewhere and frankly its not always easy. I am here to help you to get the basics and then you can develop your practise in your own time.
I am thinking that you breath loudly, funny, too slowly, too fast, your stomach is really loud, you moved your foot. STOP! Moving is allowed, especially if you are uncomfortable. Everyone breaths differently and stomach noises are normal as it’s often a sign that you are relaxing.
You keep drifting off in your thoughts. I think you’re rubbish at meditating. This is completely normal. If your mind was completely blank I would be worried. This will always happen, but you will be able to slow down and reduce those thoughts the more you do it.
I never have the same issues, stresses or problems as you. See the beginning of this post! I get stressed when things don’t go right, I beat myself up if I feel stupid, I feel overwhelmed when there is too much going on. I’ve just learnt to notice my reactions and choose my actions for the best outcome and it’s still a work in progress.
If you wanted to combine two of my favourite things you can always try a chocolate meditation. It also works just as well with fruit or raisins, but where’s the fun in that!
I am often asked which music to listen to when meditating. The CDs that I use are well used and loved and came from magazines years ago. There is some nice music from Tao Winds on YouTube. Here’s a selection to get you started.
If you enjoy reading about meditation and mindfulness on-line I can highly recommend mindful.org, which has loads of articles and meditations.